反欺凌联盟(Anti-Bullying Alliance)为家长发布了一个互动工具，为您提供有关欺凌、欺凌的类型和形式、群体欺凌、您、警察或学校可以做什么等信息。
无缘无故地压倒或欺负( Bullying)某人是常见的，也是常见的悲伤事件。学校(School)是它经常发生的地方之一，从心理和身体的角度来看，它都会留下可怕的印记。知道这是否发生在你的孩子身上不仅很重要，而且教育他们，作为父母的你自己，知道你能做些什么来阻止这种情况也很重要。
通过语言或身体来接管某人是一种普遍的人类行为。欺负周围的孩子和被欺负的孩子一样困惑。( Kids who bully around are as much confused as those who are getting bullied.) 他们这样做只是因为他们可以，而且很多时候家里的环境让他们在不知不觉中做到了。对于这些孩子来说，对他们的行为进行分类也很重要。
在这篇文章中，我正在谈论它的含义，你可以做些什么。
当涉及到孩子时，什么是欺凌
欺凌(Bullying)是一个重复的事件，身体强壮或言语聪明的孩子不断伤害那些不在他们水平上的孩子。尽管欺凌的孩子不知道这有多痛，但这是故意的，因为他们认为这很有趣。通常，它由一个小组完成，但也可以是个人。
欺凌的一些例子(Some examples of Bullying)
- 取笑外表。
- 取笑他们的智力水平或学校成绩。
- 让他们做作业，这通常发生在聪明的孩子身上。
- 嘲笑他们的父母或朋友。
- 有时它们也被隐藏起来。人们散布谣言，使他们被忽视等等。
简而言之，它可以是口头的、身体的，甚至是在线的。请在此处查看有关网络欺凌(Cyberbullying)(Cyberbullying)的更多信息。
如何知道你的孩子是否被欺负(Bullied)
没有人比你更了解你的孩子。他们通常行为的微小变化应该会让你感到震惊。即使这可能不是欺凌，但如果您跳过或不了解您的孩子有问题，整个家庭都会变得更糟。以下是您应该跟踪孩子的一些迹象：
- 突然失去上学或大学的兴趣。
- 独自呆在房子的某个角落或把自己锁在房间里。
- 他们很生气，心烦意乱，甚至为小事哭泣。
- 逃避正常的事情。
- 他们身体上的物理痕迹，他们可能会试图在一次小事故背后掩盖这些痕迹。
如何防止欺凌
作为父母，您需要迈出第一步。不是每个孩子都聪明、强壮，甚至大胆到足以承受外界的压力。你需要让他们变得更强大。
- 向他们保证，无论情况对他们来说多么糟糕，你都会和他们在一起。很多时候，孩子们害怕说出来，因为他们已经受到了侮辱，并且可能会从你身上感受到同样的反应。
- 每天与他们交谈，向他们询问一些小事，这有助于他们说出他们可能因犹豫而犹豫不决的事情。
- (Show)对他们的所作所为表现出信心，即使这是一件小事。如果您的孩子已经学会了如何保持房间清洁，请欣赏它。这些小事会增强他的信心，他或她会更好地承受学校的压力。
- 让他们了解欺凌(Bullying)和一次性事件之间的区别。有时，人们这样做是无心的，甚至是偶然的。除非它被重复，否则它不是欺凌。
如何报告欺凌行为
现在您正在与您的孩子交谈，是时候开始记录他与您分享的事件了。虽然看起来很多，但它很重要，因为当你出去保护你的孩子时，你有一些确凿的事实，学校和欺凌者都不记得。
接下来，与学校(School)或学院当局取得联系。虽然您可能会打电话，但亲自去见他们总是一个好主意。这说明你是认真的，学校当局很重视。将您收集的笔记分享给他们，他们一定会进一步调查。
如果你的学校对你不及格，是时候看看他们的政策了。每所学校都有一套行为准则，其中讨论了他们在欺凌问题上的处理方式。索取(Ask)学校政策的副本，并记下它。
张贴此准备一封手写信给学校负责人(Head)，谈论事件，事件清单的副本，引用学校的政策并亲自给他们。这应该足以引起他们的注意。
查看反欺凌工具
要查看反欺凌联盟(Alliance)的有趣工具，请访问anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk。在开始之前，您必须在开始此培训模块之前使用他们的浏览器检查器工具(Browser Checker Tool) ，以确保您有正确的系统要求。
最后，如果你的孩子欺负...
这和被欺负一样糟糕，如果是这种情况，你应该认真对待这件事。成为恶霸(Bully)可能会使您的孩子走上错误的人生道路，即使他们没有成为罪犯，但确实会影响他们对待其他人的方式。这是你应该做的：
- 与您的孩子交谈，并尝试弄清楚他可能会那样做。很多时候，他只是对他带走别人的东西感到沮丧。
- 花点时间想想你家的情况。您的孩子是否正在向您学习一些东西，并在那里复制它。
- 与您的儿童(Kids) 教师(Teachers)交谈以了解更多详情。还要让老师有信心不要把会议告诉你的孩子。
- 有时，如果情况非常糟糕，您可能需要寻求医疗帮助才能解决问题。
这很重要，也是作为父母对孩子的责任。不要逃避这一点。
Interactive Anti-Bullying Tool for Parents and what you can do about it
The Anti-Bullying Alliance has released an interactive tool for parents that give you information about bullying, the type & forms of bullying, group bullying, what you, the police or the school can do and more.
Overpowering or Bullying someone for no reason is a common, and sad event that is common. School is one of the places where it happens often, and it leaves terrible marks both from psychological and physical perspective. It’s not only important to know if this is happening to your kids, but its also important to educate them, yourself as a parent, and know what you can do to stop this.
It’s a general human behavior to take over someone either by using words or physically. Kids who bully around are as much confused as those who are getting bullied. They just do it because they can, and many a time the environment at home make them do it unknowingly. It’s also important for those kids to get their behavior sorted.
In this post, I am talking about what it means, what you can do about it.
What is Bullying when it comes kids
Bullying is a repeating event where kids who are either physically strong or smart with their words keep hurting kids who are not at their level. Even though kids who bully don’t have any idea how badly it hurts, it’s intentional because they think its fun. Usually, its done by a group, but can be an individual as well.
Some examples of Bullying
- Making fun of appearances.
- Making fun of their intelligence level or school marks.
- Making them do their homework which usually happens with smarter kids.
- Taunting them about their parents or friends.
- Sometimes they are hidden as well. People spreading rumors, making them get ignored and so on.
In short, it can be verbal, physical or even online. Do check out more about Cyberbullying here.
How to know if your kid is getting Bullied
Nobody knows your kid better than you. A small shift from their usual behavior should alarm you. Even though it may not be bullying, but if you skip or don’t understand there is something wrong with your kid, it gets worse for the whole family. Here are some signs you should keep a track of kids:
- The sudden loss of interest to go to school or college.
- Spending time alone at some corner of the house or locking themselves in the room.
- They are angry, upset, crying even on small things.
- Running away from normal things.
- Physical marks on their body which they might try to cover up behind a small accident.
How to prevent bullying
The first step needs to be taken by you, as a parent. Not every kid is smart or strong or even bold enough to withstand the pressure of the outside world. You need to make them stronger.
- Assure them that you are always with them no matter how worse the situation is for them. Many a time kids are scared to tell because they are already insulted, and could feel the same reaction coming from you.
- Talk to them every day, ask them about small things, that helps them to say the thing they might have been holding back because of hesitation.
- Show confidence in them for what they do, even if its a small thing. If your kid has learned how to keep his room clean, appreciate it. These small things will boost his confidence, and he or she will withstand pressure in school in a much better way.
- Team them the difference between Bullying, and what is a one-off incident. Sometimes people do without intention or even accidental. Unless it’s getting repeated, it’s not bullying.
How to report Bullying
Now that you are talking to your kid, its time to start making a record of the incidents he has shared with you. While it may look like a lot, but its an important thing to, because when you go out to defend your kid, you have some hard facts which neither school have nor the person bullying remembers.
Next, get in touch with School or college authority. While you may call, its always a good idea to go, and meet them in person. This shows you are serious about it, and school authority pays attention. Share the notes you have collected to them, and they will be bound to investigate further.
If your school fails on you, its time to look at their policies. Every school has a code of conduct which talks about how they handle it when it comes to bullying. Ask for a copy of school’s policy, and make a note of it.
Post this prepare a handwritten letter to School’s Head talking about the incidents, a copy of the list of incidents, quote the policies of the school and give them in person. This should be enough to draw their attention.
Check out the Anti-Bullying Tool
To check out the interesting tool from Anti-Bullying Alliance visit anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk here. Before you begin, you will have to use their Browser Checker Tool before starting this training module to make sure you have the correct system requirements.
Lastly, if you child Bullys…
This is as bad as getting bullied, and if this is the case, you should take the matter seriously. Becoming a Bully can take your kid on a wrong path in their life, and even if they don’t become bad as criminals, it does affect how they treat everyone else. Here is what you should do:
- Talk to your kid, and try to figure out what he might be acting like that. Many a time its mere frustration of something that he taking out somebody else.
- Take a moment to think how things are at your home. Is there something which your kid is learning from you, and just replicate it there.
- Talk to your Kids Teachers for more details. Also get teachers in confidence not to tell about the meeting to your kid.
- Sometimes, you might have to take medical help to get things sorted if things are very bad.
It’s important, and a responsibility as a parent for your kids. Do not run away from this.
