有时，互联网似乎是一个非常令人生畏的地方。无论您发布什么，都会有人查看和评论它。而且，当他们坐在屏幕前而不是在真人面前时，很多人会觉得说他们通常不会说的话更安全。特别是如果他们使用的社交媒体类型是一种提供匿名感的社交媒体。
但是，在互联网上发表评论时有一些方法可以让您获得无压力的体验。即使有人故意煽动某些事情，您也不必让自己陷入其中。世界上已经有足够的压力，互联网(internet doesn)不必成为它的另一个来源。
发帖前三思(Think Before You Post)
在您在互联网上发布任何类型的帖子之前，事先考虑一下它可能会引起什么样的反应会有所帮助。如果您发布与有争议的话题（例如政治或宗教）相关的内容，您极有可能会收到一些愤怒的回应。因此，请决定这是否值得您发布。
如果您要回复某人(something someone)评论的内容，请考虑您要添加到对话中的内容以及是否有必要。对你说的话有选择性将帮助你避免来自他人的直接负面反应。
如果可以，请忽略它(If You Can, Ignore It)
在大多数情况下，当您看到真正让您感到紧张的帖子或评论(post or comment)时，最好的办法就是不参与。通过避免回应，你会为自己节省很多压力。
很多时候，这不值得付出努力。取消关注或阻止此人也将帮助您避免这些您不想看到的事情。而且你会花更少的时间对发布的内容感到不安。
还要记住，通过互联网真正改变某人的想法是极其困难的。由于平台的性质，负面反馈通常只会加强某人的信念，无论您提供什么信息，他们都不太可能让步。
当人们形成意见时，他们会使用认知偏见来这样做，这并不总是基于逻辑。没有人能免于这一点，所以当你不同意的帖子或评论(post or comment)引起你的反应时，你可以做的是尝试理解为什么它让你有这种感觉并继续前进(way and move)。
当你应该回应(When You Should Respond)
然而，有时回应某事可能是个好主意。如果您可以提供更深入的见解或某人(insight or information someone)可能会接受的信息，那么您的回答实际上可能对对话具有建设性。
此外，如果您认识的人发布了您不同意的内容，他们可能更有可能倾听您的意见。你认识的人与你有某种情感联系，所以他们更容易考虑你的反应。一个完全陌生的人不太可能关心你要说的话。
如何机智地回应(How to Respond Tactfully)
所以，如果你决定发表评论，你应该记住一些事情。首先(First)，不要让自己屈服于侮辱。使用它们没有任何(s nothing)好处，而且人们不太可能认真对待你。
即使有人先侮辱你，而不是回报，这应该是一个信号，表明你应该退出这种情况。
尝试注意您在输入回复时使用的措辞。在互联网上，没有语气，所以很容易把事情搞错。如果您怀疑某些事情会让人感到困惑，请尝试使用不同的措辞。在这些情况下，使用表情符号也有助于向他人展示你的好意。
也尽量不要表现得居高临下，否则人们不会接受你。只要您要回复的人不是仇恨或宣传危险的东西，思想开放可能是您最好的行动方案。
如何发现巨魔(How to Spot a Troll)
如果您发现自己在互联网上发生口角，很可能您正在与一个只想为了争论而争论的人打交道。或者，他们根本不在乎(t care)你要说什么，而只是想惹你。
有几种方法可以抓住其中一个人，通常称为巨魔，一旦你做了最好的事情就是脱离接触。巨魔(Trolls)不想要任何真正的讨论，他们只是想引起反应以感觉优越或娱乐。
如果他们一遍又一遍地重复相同的修辞或短语(rhetoric or phrase)，就好像他们甚至没有阅读你所说的那样，这很可能是一个巨魔。如果他们提出夸张的、狂野的主张和建议或尝试使用冲击因素(shock factor)，这也是正确的。
使用评论礼仪(Using Comment Etiquette)
为了减轻使用互联网的压力，尝试只参与建设性和积极的对话不仅可以极大地帮助您的在线生活，而且可以帮助您的生活。
互联网是一个伟大的创造，它可以让你与其他人交谈，如果没有它，你永远无法做到。因此，虽然使用互联网肯定有好处，但也可能存在一些陷阱。遵循这些提示可以帮助您导航。
Internet Comment Etiquette to Improve Your Social Experience
Sometimes, thе intеrnet can seem like a pretty intimidating place. Whatever you post, there will be people looking at and commenting on it. And, a lot of people feel much safer saying things they normally wouldn’t when they’re sitting in front оf a screen instead of in front of an actual person. Especially if the type of social media they’re using is one that provides a sense of anonymity.
There are ways while commenting on the internet, though, that can allow you a stress-free experience. Even if someone is intentionally trying to instigate something, you don’t have to allow yourself to get caught up in it. There’s enough stress in the world already, the internet doesn’t have to be another source of it.
Think Before You Post
Before you make any type of post on the internet, it can help to think beforehand about what kind of response it may elicit. If you are posting something related to controversial topics, like politics or religion, it’s extremely likely you’ll get some angry responses. So decide whether or not that’s worth what you want to post.
If you’re replying to something someone has commented, think about what you’re adding to the conversation and if it’s necessary. Being selective about what you say will help you avoid outright negative reactions from others.
If You Can, Ignore It
In most situations where you see a post or comment that really puts you on edge, the best thing to do is not engage. You’ll save yourself a lot of stress by refraining from responding.
More often than not, it’s not worth the effort. Unfollowing or blocking the person will also help you to avoid these sorts of things you don’t want to see. And you’ll spend much less time being upset over what was posted.
Also keep in mind that it’s extremely difficult to really change someone’s mind over the internet. Because of the nature of the platform, negative feedback usually will only reinforce someone’s beliefs, and they’re unlikely to budge no matter what information you provide.
When people form opinions, they use cognitive biases to do so, which isn’t always necessarily based on logic. Nobody is exempt from this, so when a post or comment you disagree with creates a reaction in you, what you can do instead is try to understand why it made you feel that way and move on.
When You Should Respond
There are times, however, when responding to something may be a good idea. If you can provide deeper insight or information someone is likely to be receptive to, then your response may actually be constructive to the conversation.
Also, if someone you know in person has posted something you disagree with, they may be more likely to listen to you. Someone you know has some sort of emotional tie to you, so they are more apt to consider your response. A complete stranger is much less likely to care about what you have to say.
How to Respond Tactfully
So, if you decide to post a comment, there are some things you should keep in mind. First of all, don’t allow yourself to stoop to insults. There’s nothing to gain from using them, and people are much less likely to take you seriously.
Even if someone insults you first, instead of reciprocating, it should be a sign that you should step back from the situation.
Try to be aware of the wording you use when typing a response. Over the internet, there’s no tone of voice, so it’s easy for things to be taken the wrong way. If you suspect something would come across as confusing, try wording it differently. Using emoticons can also be beneficial in these situations to show others you mean well.
Also try not to come off as condescending, or people will not be as receptive towards you. Being open-minded can be your best course of action, as long as the person you’re replying to is not being hateful or promoting something dangerous.
How to Spot a Troll
If you find yourself in a spat on the internet, it’s very likely you could be dealing with someone who just wants to argue for the sake of arguing. Or, they don’t care at all about what you have to say and instead simply want to mess with you.
There are a few ways you can catch one of these people, usually called a troll, and once you do the best thing is to disengage. Trolls don’t want any true discussion, they just want to cause a reaction in order to feel superior or for entertainment.
If they continually repeat the same rhetoric or phrase over and over, as if they aren’t even reading what you say, it’s likely a troll. This is also true if they make hyperbolic, wild claims and suggestions or try to use the shock factor.
Using Comment Etiquette
In order to keep stress out of using the internet, trying to take part only in constructive and positive conversation can help you immensely not only in your online life but also life in general.
The internet is a great creation that allows you to talk with others who, without it, you never would have been able to. So while there are definitely benefits from using the internet, there can also be some pitfalls. Following these tips can help you navigate your way through.
