在线约会(Online Dating)是互联网最常见的用途之一。除了将互联网用于我们的工作、玩游戏、购物等，数以百万计的人还使用它来寻找他们生命中的挚爱。虽然Facebook(Facebook)和Instagram等社交网站在网上约会中也发挥着重要作用，但也有特定的约会网站。此类网站的数量实际上每天都在增加，约会诈骗的数量也在增加。
如今，网上约会骗局(Online Dating Scams)呈上升趋势，骗子真的很聪明。并不是说您很愚蠢，因此您被骗了，但是是的，只要多加注意，就可以真正避免此类骗局。
骗子，尤其是男性骗子，通常针对的是中年女士，尤其是有钱的女士。用他们俗气的谈话，他们会首先试图给你留下深刻印象并靠近你，然后会逐渐剥夺你的所有资产。该案实际上也与女性骗子相似。如果您认为只有男性欺骗女孩/女士，那是一个神话。女孩(Girls)或女士同样参与此类在线约会骗局。
在本文中，我们将讨论一些可以帮助您识别在线约会网站上的骗子的技巧。
发现网上约会诈骗的提示
仔细看个人资料
简介实际上说明了一切。如果您再小心一点，就很容易发现伪造的个人资料。仔细检查每一个细节，比如他们的工作场所，他们的家庭等。骗子通常会试图用他们的财富来引诱你，从而上传豪宅豪车等图片。例如，豪宅、豪车等等。这一切都是为了给你一个印象，这样一个有钱的男孩/女孩不能/不会欺骗你。他们通常提到自己在国外工作或作为军事人员或使用其他可信赖的职业。
看看照片
照片(Photos)实际上是检查一个人是否是骗子的最佳方式。仔细检查他们所有的照片，你会发现它们是否是真正的变形照片。仔细检查他们在图片中的位置，看看它是否与他们的距离相匹配。另外，请检查这些图片是否在互联网上的其他任何地方可用。下载(Download)他们的个人资料图片或上传的任何其他图片，并使用Google反向图片搜索。
他们不会给你发照片或视频聊天
诈骗者不会向您发送他们的照片，也不会出现在视频聊天中。因为他们正在使用一些变形的图片或非法使用别人的图片。
他们太快了
这样的骗子来得太快了。在你们建立友谊的短短几天内，他们就会开始爱你并想念你。他们的每一句话都会以Dear之类的词开头，然后是 sweetheart 和 darlings。你会突然成为他们一生的挚爱。他们将开始向您发送情感电子邮件和信息，以表达他们对您的爱以及他们多么想念您。
他们可能会要求您提供私密照片
离你更近一点后不久，他们就会开始要求你的亲密照片。网上(Online)约会骗局不一定是金钱。不要将您的任何私密照片发送给您未亲自见过的任何人。
骗子发挥强烈情绪
坦率地说，您必须比骗子更聪明才能识别他/她。这些人在你开始和他们聊天后不久就会向你表达强烈的情感。他们可能会分享一些令人心碎的生活故事，或者可能会展示自己患有某种致命疾病，以赢得您的同情和信任。然后他们可能会询问您的其他联系方式，例如您的社交网络 ID、电话号码、电子邮件 ID 甚至您的地址。不要被这种情绪化的戏剧所迷惑，也不要分享你的联系方式。仅限于特定的约会平台。
骗子努力赢得您的信任(Trust)
不要被情感信息、诗歌、俗气的台词，甚至是礼物所迷惑。这样的骗子会努力赢得您的信任，他们也可能会在开始时向您发送一些礼物。他们会格外照顾你，也可能会在短短几天内对你产生占有欲。
他们不会轻易遇见你
无论您多么坚持认为该人是骗子，他/她最初都会继续避免会议。他们可能会像在国外工作一样使用技巧，并且无法真正来见您。有时他们可能还会向您展示他们为与您会面而预订但由于某些紧急工作或健康问题而不得不取消的假机票。
要钱
一旦他们觉得你上钩了，他们就会设计一些锻造故事来从你那里赚钱。这个故事肯定会有一些情感角度来强迫你情绪化。他们可能会通过在这里和那里建立一些虚假故事来要求您借给他们几天的钱。他们也可能会询问您的信用卡详细信息，给您一些奇怪的理由。他们会告诉你，他们已经准备好和你开始新的生活，但突然陷入了一些金融危机，然后跟随情感剧，你给他们寄钱买他们的机票或其他一些废话。他们还可能会要求您为未来的生活共同开设一个联名账户，也可能会在其中存入一些资金以赢得您的信任。但是，一旦您存入资金，他们就会提取所有金额并消失。
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如果你被骗了怎么办？
如果您觉得自己在约会网站上被任何人欺骗或骚扰，您可以向该网站举报。每个约会网站都有踢出和阻止诈骗者的条款。
如果您已经分享了您的银行详细信息或信用卡详细信息，请联系您的银行并立即冻结该卡。更改所有在线密码。如果受到进一步骚扰，您还可以联系网络警察并提出投诉，并提供有关诈骗者的完整详细信息。
在线约会诈骗(Online Dating Scams)日益增多，但只要格外小心并避免在约会网站上犯下的一些常见错误，就可以避免此类诈骗。
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How to spot Online Dating Scams
Online Dating is one of the most common uses of the internet. Besides using the internet for our work, playing games, shopping, etc., millions of people use it to find the love of their life. While the social networking websites like Facebook and Instagram also play an important role in dating online, there are specific dating websites too. The number of such websites is actually increasing day by day and so are increasing the number of dating scams.
Online Dating Scams are on the rise these days and the scammers are really smart. It is not that you are stupid and thus you got scammed, but yes one can really avoid such scams just by being a bit extra watchful.
The scammers, especially the male scammers usually target middle-aged ladies and particularly the one who has good money. With their cheesy talks, they will first try to impress you and get closer and then will gradually strip all your assets. The case is actually similar to the female scammers too. If you are thinking that only a male scams girls/ladies, it is a myth. Girls or ladies are equally involved in such online dating scams.
In this article, we will talk about a few tips which can help you identify a scammer on online dating websites.
Tips to spot Online Dating Scams
Watch the profile carefully
The profile actually says everything. If you are a bit more careful, it is very easy to spot a fake profile. Check every detail properly, like their workplace, their family, etc. Scammers usually try to lure you with their wealth, thereby uploading the pictures with a huge house and lavish cars etc. For example, huge houses, big luxury cars, and more. This is all to give you an impression that such a rich guy/girl can’t/won’t cheat you. They usually mention themselves working in foreign countries or as military personnel or use the other trusted occupations.
Check out the photos
Photos actually are the best mode to check if a person is a scammer or not. Check all their photos carefully and you can find out if they are genuine pictures of morphed. Check their locations in the pictures carefully and see if it matches their proximity. Also, check if those pictures are available anywhere else on the internet. Download their profile image or any other pictures uploaded and use Google reverse image search.
They won’t send you pictures or come on video chat
Scammers won’t send you their pictures and won’t come on the video chat either. Because they are using some morphed pictures or using someone else’s picture illegitimately.
They are too quick
Such scammers are too quick. In just a few days of your friendship, they will start loving and missing you. Their every sentence will start with the words like Dear, followed by sweetheart and darlings. You suddenly will become the love of their life. They will start sending you emotional emails and messages showing their love for you and how much they miss you.
They may ask for your intimate pictures
Soon after getting a bit closer to you, they will start demanding for your intimate pictures. Online dating scam is not necessarily monetary. Do not send any of your intimate pictures to anyone you haven’t met personally.
Scammers play strong emotions
To be straight, you have to be cleverer than the scammer to identify him/her. Such people express strong emotions to you soon after you start chatting with them. They may either share some heartbreaking story of their life or may show themselves suffering from some lethal disease to gain your sympathy followed by your trust. They then may ask for your other contact details like your social networking ID, your phone number, email ID and even your address. Do not get fooled by such emotional drama and never share your contact details. Keep it limited to that particular dating platform only.
Scammers work hard to gain your Trust
Do not get fooled by the emotional messages, poetry, cheesy lines, and even by the gifts. Such scammers try hard to gain your trust and they may also send some gifts to you in the beginning. They will take extra care of you and may also get possessive about you in just a few days.
They won’t meet you easily
No matter how hard you insist if the person is a scammer he/she will keep avoiding the meetings initially. They may use the tricks like they are working in a foreign country and won’t really be able to come and meet you. Sometimes they may also show you a fake flight ticket they booked just to meet you but had to cancel because of some urgent work or health issue.
Ask for money
As soon as they feel you are on their hook, they will design some forge story to get money from you. The story will certainly have some emotional angle to force you emotionally. They might ask you to lend them some money for a few days by building some fake story here and there. They may also ask for your credit card details giving you some odd reasons. They will tell you that they are ready to start a new life with you but suddenly stuck in some financial crisis and then follows the emotional drama and you send them money for their flight tickets or some other crap. They may also ask you to open a joint account for your future life together and also may deposit some funds in it to gain your trust. But as soon as you deposit money they will withdraw all amount and vanish away.
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What to do if you are scammed?
If you feel you are scammed or getting harassed by anyone on the dating website, you can report it to the website. Every dating website has a clause of kicking out and blocking scammers.
If you have already shared your bank details or credit card details, contact your bank and get the card blocked immediately. Change all your online passwords. In case of further harassment, you can also contact the cyber police and file a complaint with full details about the scammer.
Online Dating Scams are increasing day by day but one can avoid such scam just by being extra careful and avoiding some common mistakes done on Dating websites.
Read next: Online Sextortion scams.
